Mother’s Day Reflections of the World of Publishing from @StephRyanAuthor

Happy Mother’s Day to all those caregivers out there. I don’t have any human children of my own, but my fur babies are more than enough for me at this point in my life. My hat is off to those who are able to juggle everything and raise kids in the crazy world we live in today.

Speaking of crazy…

You know how I love the Real Housewives shows. They’re so over the top and allow me an escape of what’s going on in my life. Watching these crazy women go at each other is so entertaining that at times I forget that they are real women. Sure some of it may very well be staged, but there are times when those fights are all too real and too close to home.

When I first entered the world of publishing, never in my wildest dreams would I ever think there would be so many incidents of backstabbing, sabotage, fighting among authors in the same genre and among those in varying heat levels of the genres, fights between author and reviewers/bloggers…and on and on. If I would have known this profession would be as cutthroat as it is, I’m not sure I would’ve ever jumped in and submitted my first book to Siren Bookstrand under another pen name.

Maybe it’s better that I didn’t know. I’ve learned a hell of a lot in the last four years. Some of which isn’t very pretty and I’m not proud of all of my actions at times, but I own up to them and have moved forward to try to be a better person and treat others accordingly. Unfortunately, part of those lessons learned have been at the hands of a few who had disguised themselves as friends—people to lend and ear or shoulder to cry on when things were rough.

What a crock. This is where I have to remind myself and all of you to listen to your inner voice. If the situation sounds too good to be true, it will turn around and bite you in the ass when you least expect it.

My adventure as an author and publisher has now become like the Real Housewives. I can’t declare any city as part of the name as the ensemble are from all over the country. Maybe we could call it “The Real Housewives of Indie Publishing” or “The Real Housewives of Amazon.” No matter the title of the thing it all ends up the same—into a nightmare of lies and half truths.

The only way out of the quagmire is to walk away. Even if you know you are telling the truth and you feel betrayed, let it go. The others involved in the mess may feel the same. If it’s meant to work out, it will in good time. You can’t force it. You have no control over whether people believe you or not. What you do have control over is whether or not you allow others to take you from your chosen path.

Some of you may be here to see if I’m going to spill any dirt on what has been happening between me and some others. You won’t find it here. Those issues are between us and no one else’s business. One day the whole truth will come out. Until then, all of us have lives to lead, books to write and readers to meet.

Speaking of books to write, I’ll have chapter 7 of Dangerous Medicine up in two weeks. It will be the final chapter of the free read portion of the novel. Make sure you catch up on the rest of the story before then. 

See you soon,

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REBLOG: Write Your Ass Off: Publishing is NOT a zero-sum game.

So this isn’t a real Thursday Thirteen post today, but it goes along with the “small taste” theme. It’s the first time I’m reblogging a post from another blogger. 

The following link is to a fabulous post by author Tymber Dalton in response to the recent uproar caused by an author badmouthing J.K. Rowling. I have to say I was more than a bit shocked the person had the balls to say Ms. Rowling should stop writing and then proceed to trash her Harry Potter books…after admitting she’d NEVER read one of them.

Can you believe that?

What’s going on in the publishing world? I mean, before I tossed my hat in the ring, I never heard of all “authors behaving badly” or “Internet trolls.” I never thought in my wildest dreams or nightmares that an author would launch attacks on another simply because they perceive them as a threat or competition.

Tymber puts it all out there and details exactly how I feel about the situation too. I may not be published as Stephanie yet, but I have three other pen names with books out. I’ve been supported by some of the finest people I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing and also been slammed in reviews recently by a few simply because they could do it.

I’m building up a thick skin during all of this, but I’m happy to say I do have others to lean on and make me laugh at myself and any “alleged” trolls. In the end, it’s not worth going on the warpath and maybe ruining my career. I’d rather keep plugging along and help others to do the same. I cheer them on during their successes and lend an ear when they just need to blow off steam.

That’s would friends and colleagues do for each other. Not all of us are the best of friends, but we’re all in the same boat. We know the struggles, heartaches and the joys. Who better to understand what we’re going through than another author?

Go ahead and click on the link to Tymber’s blog and leave a comment for her.

Write Your Ass Off: Publishing is NOT a zero-sum game.: I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Publishing is NOT a zero-sum game. (Kind of knew I was going to say that from the titl…

Until next time,


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